Tuesday 16 September 2008

Who Plans the Rehearsal Dinner

A reader recently wrote to ask:

Who plans the rehearsal dinner? I always thought that the groom's parents did all the planning, but my sweetie's mom and dad have said that they're happy to pay, but don't want to plan. With everything else I have to do, I don't really feel up to planning a whole other even right before the wedding. Can you answer this question for me so I can either send my future in-laws a link to your answer or resign myself to "doing it all?"

Typically, it is the groom's parents who host the event, which means that they plan as well as pay. However, modern brides and grooms (and their families) are bucking tradition these days, which means that almost every established wedding rule can be broken without shocking family and friends.

If telling your in-laws-to-be that the rehearsal dinner is usually their responsibility doesn't inspire them to have a change of heart, all is not lost! You can host it all by yourself without breaking the bank or losing your mind. The truth is a "rehearsal dinner" doesn't have to be a dinner at all. If you feel you must have a rehearsal, keep it casual, and invite participants to your home for pizza and beer.

On the other hand, if you do want to take advantage of your groom's parents' offer to foot the bill, consider holding the rehearsal dinner at a local restaurant where chefs and staff will handle all the details for you. You can enjoy a nice meal without having to worry about ordering food, decorating, or reserving a hall. Just make sure that everyone invited to participate in the rehearsal and attend the dinner knows where and when to show up!

Learn more about rehearsal dinners are the preceding link

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